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In last month’s newsletter the article was called Divorcing Drama and it must have struck a nerve because I got lots of email from women who said “thanks, I needed that.”
Drama is everywhere and somehow we came to believe it’s “just a part of life.” Or is it? For some it’s not only a part of life it’s life’s blood, it’s breathing, food, sustenance. The main point in the article is that midlife is a time when what no longer serves us needs to be let go. Letting go is hard sometimes especially when the payoff–negative or positive–is one we have come to rely on. Think about a cigarette’s effects. It’s not just the nicotine that smoker’s come to the habit for. There is the social aspect, the physical inhaling–that’s a deep breathing exercise in disguise if I ever saw one, the pavlovian stimulus/response conditioning.
Drama can be the same. When we create it–and it’s often within our merlin’s bag of tricks–on a regular basis we get paid in attention, bragging rights, a flood of stress hormones which give us a boost, and a pity party if we are in victim mode.
Maybe you feel I’m being a bit harsh. Let’s pose a few scenarios and see if you change your mind.
Mary puts off paying her sales tax which were due 6 months ago. She looks at the bill every day or so, has the money but doesn’t want to spend it, says “I keep forgetting” when telling her friend how she MUST pay her sales tax. Suddenly, (not) she gets a letter from the IRS saying she owes a 25% penalty which is accruing with interest every day she delays paying. now she has to cough up another $400 which she feels is unfair. Is it or is it drama creation?
Gina has an old car, it’s really old and it has a few problems. She belongs to the duct tape school of repairs and rather than taking the car in for a major–read expensive–repair she “fixes it” herself and worries aloud, “I hope this holds til I get to my sister’s.” She has been saying the same thing for 2 years and finally, about 2/3 of the way to her sister’s, on a major highway with exits spaced 30 miles apart, the car gives up, the engine catches on fire, and she is stranded. Oh, and she never did sign up for AAA even though she “knew” she should. No am I being harsh when I say that some of us are masters at inviting it or can you see how subtly we weave this magic?
We have these blind spots–no one wants to be stranded on the highway of life–that at midlife it’s time to shine a light on. How we do that is by reviewing the things in our lives that make us go, “CRAP” I really ought to do something about this, and then doing that thing you ought to do.
If it’s your health, mental or physical that needs some attention then why not get some information that might help you? Find a new doc, one who listens and practices with alternative as well as western medicine. Get into a mastermind group that works on strengthening self esteem or self care. Perhaps go to an event that’s all about health, what’s new, what’s outside the box but proven safe.
You can stay home and get some great information by joining me for the Midlife Women’s Mind and Body Experts Series. I’ve got 13 experts live on hour long calls throughout the month of September. It’s free and you can sign up here.
It’s not going to cure your life of drama creation but it’s a great place to start learning about how to release it from experts like Dr. Sue Morter and Mary Allen who are masters at releasing techniques and the how of creating something we love vs drama. The other experts–like Dr. Ann Louise Gittleman, Dr. Jonny Bowden, and Dr. Susan Brown are going to help us avoid the drama of lifestyle diseases like obesity, diabetes and cancer. Jan Sinatra is talking to us about women’s heart health measures, Kelley Herring will teach us where hormone damaging chemicals lie in every day life and products and what to substitute. Suzanne Falter Barns is laying bare her soul on spirit guided drama reduction, Jen Louden comforts us with a mini-retreat, Mia Lundin helps us avoid the female brain gone insane syndrome and Amy Ferris, award winning midlife author will help us laugh our way through the drama we do encounter.
Don’t miss out on these wonderful people’s insights and information. Drama is your friend when you are at the top of a high mountain peak cause you trained and climbed it, or on Oprah, or seeing your first book in print. How to get to the good drama? Plan for it, eliminate what might take you away from it like ignoring the gut instincts that tell you to take care of something or show up somewhere.
As women we’ve been told to take varying amounts of calcium per day depending on where we are on the continuum. Dairy products help, leafy greens are full of it, and some nuts and legumes also contain calcium so eating a broad spectrum of whole foods is important.
When it comes to the supplements there is no shortage of confusion and options. Citrate, carbonate, lactate, gluconate, with K, with D? What’s the best ratio of magnesium to calcium? It’s enough to exhaust even this fan of research. When I’ve had enough of trying to sort it all out I find an expert to help. In this case, the Doc I rely on for all things bone related and keeping them healthy is Dr. Susan Brown, MD. She’s one of the experts for Women to Women International which is a site you should bookmark if you are not familiar with it. The information is all geared towards us, is reliable, safe, and mostly alternative vs pharmaceutical.
Dr. Brown has simple to follow recommendations at her website and in her books. If you aren’t inclined to read or don’t have time be sure to listen in to our interview on September 28th, at 3pm EST. She’s one of the 14 experts I’m bringing together to give you the latest info on being healthy, aging in good health and looking and feeling your best at midlife.
The most important thing to know is that food, supplements and even adding weight bearing exercise are important but not the whole picture. Learning about the acid/alkaline balance is critical to keeping calcium where it belongs–in the bones. Our lives are full of stress which creates acid as do high protein diets, consuming caffeine, alcohol, and soda.
Osteopenia, the dreaded diagnosis for women ages 35 and up, is a non–disease. When the mean by which all older bones are measured for density is a healthy, white, female in her 20′s, who stands a chance? Our bones will undergo structural changes and thin as we age. That’s not the problem. Flexible bones are what we are striving for regardless of how they may look in a dexa scan. The drugs so readily prescribed by docs around the country to “prevent fractures” create brittle bones–let’s not even talk about the side effects–the very thing we don’t want in a bone.
I invite you to take a look at Dr. Brown’s excellent pages of information–tons of it free–and see how your healthy bones program measures up. I don’t know about you but I’ve seen too many elderly women fall, break a hip, and basically kiss their independence goodbye. I will do all I can to avoid that happening.
If you haven’t heard, September is Midlife with a Vengeance month and I’ve got 14 amazing health and life professionals who have agreed to be interviewed live and spill the beans on midlife health and happiness.
Take a look to find out who the speakers are and what they’ll be talking about. Don’t forget to sign up, it’s free, and I know it is going to be life changing for many of us.
Here’s to your healthy bones.
PS here is what the good doc has to say about which type of calcium to take:
“As to which forms optimize both absorption and bioavailability, alkalizing calcium salts are the best calcium compounds known to date. These forms include calcium citrate, calcium citrate–malate, calcium ascorbate, and calcium carbonate. Calcium citrate and its relative, calcium citrate–malate (CCM), are sources that do not require hydrochloric acid (HCl) from the stomach for absorption, so the calcium in them is very bioavailable to the body and a good choice for people with low stomach acid. Calcium in the form of calcium citrate also appears to play a protective role against the formation of kidney stones, and does not appear to interfere with iron absorption from food. Calcium carbonate is often found not to be as well absorbed as citrate, but does alkalize well in the body if taken with food. (Calcium absorption from all forms is generally better when taken with a meal.)”
You can read more here:http://www.betterbones.com/bonenutrition/calcium.aspx
One aspect of weight loss and healthy weight maintenance is finding out what our triggers are so we can take control over them vs allowing them to have their wicked ways with us.
How to do that? Well, I’m not an expert in emotional eating but I’m having a call with someone who is.
My colleague Melissa McCreery PhD has agreed to spend an hour with us discussing emotional eating. (we will also have open Q & A)
Melissa has been working with busy, overwhelmed women since 1989 to get at the root of their frustrations surrounding emotional eating.
We start each day with the best of intentions to eat well and eat just enough to feel satisfied. The pressures of the work day, our money situations, clients—you name it, the every day stresses of life have the power to knock us off course. Add to this the hormonal fluctuations of midlife and and without some awareness of what’s going on we are bound to wake up in the middle of a pig out wondering how we got there at some point.
But why does it happen? If you think it would be powerful to know what drives us to power through a bag of chips or nuts or cookies, giving away our power to do what’s more supportive of our intentions, then sign up for the call. In combination Melissa and I are going to inform and answer questions on the things both emotional and physical that cause us to lose control around food to soothe ourselves.
There is no charge for this call and if you can’t be on the call live but want the information, sign up for the recording. Either way you can ask a question at the sign up page.
I look forward to sharing another hour with you and hope you’ll be with us on the call.
While pulling together the information for my weight loss for midlife women Power Hour last month I realized I had way too much information for just one hour. What I needed was more like four! When a couple of women asked how they could get more information I decided to offer a 4 hour, 4 week workshop.
If you want to whole story right now you can pop over here.
The beauty of a virtual workshop is not only that you get to hear stories, struggles and successes from other women just like you, it’s a lower priced option for coaching.
And for this class I’m offering some super bonuses, like a 60-minute one on one session with me at no extra charge.
Plus you can bring a friend for half price.
Why am I offering this workshop for so little when there is so much value? Because I’m looking for success stories. I’m launching a new website end of November to celebrate my newest certification as a weight loss coach and I want to be able to share your story with other women to inspire them.
And I want feedback on the content and delivery of the workshop information and processes.
Sound like something you might be interested in? Get all the information and sign up here.
Don’t put it off if you feel it’s something you need right now as I’m only taking 10 women for this pilot program.
What would it mean if you could get through the holidays without gaining the holiday 5, with more energy and looking and feeling better than you have in a long time? голова болит секс
